Dominique Oputa is the last child of the Areafada
a.k.a Charly Boy. She currently lives in Atlanta where she's studying Fashion
and Design in the University of Arts Institute.
Her dream is to become a famous designer some day.
Like her famous dad, Dominique has tattoos and piercings and is very fearless.
In this interview with New Wave Productions, she
talks about her life in the US, her father and his influence in her life.
Are you happy to be home; would you settle in Nigeria or you would finally settle abroad?
Are you happy to be home; would you settle in Nigeria or you would finally settle abroad?
This will
always be home for me, at least, it’s comforting to know one is with family,
and I am glad to be home. I missed home, mum and dad. Things may not be what it
should be, but home is it. There were too many things I took for granted before
I left, but now I know better. When I’m done with schooling, I will be back
home, to do my own thing too, even though, the weather is killing me right
now”.
You are a child of two different cultures, how do
you cope?
When I was
home, I grew up fast; I had that independent spirit, so I’m coping real good. I
am working now and schooling, I simply just thank God. Growing up with my
parents kept me on the straight and narrow path, trust Dad, we all know how
strict he gets sometimes, although I am old enough, I guess in his eyes, I will
forever remain his baby. However growing up in Nigeria, prepared me for my
independence. Nigerian children are more grounded than the Americans. We mature
quicker and early enough to start taking responsibilities.
You look so
much like your father in looks and style, is this deliberate?
I think I’m
just the female version of my dad, we are just the same pretty much, I guess I
caught his cold after years of being around him. I have always admired him for
his freedom and his tenacity at a time when it was taboo to look that way. In
my case, the whole thing just grew on me.
I don’t do
all I do because I am trying to be like my dad. I am just Dominique, even though
I wear tattoos and have piercings, but it’s just because I love them, not
because I got influenced by my dad. There are many people who do this stuff,
not because anyone, but because they are just comfortable that way.
What’s is
your choices of career, and what influence does your dad have regarding that?
I want to be
a designer and a stylist. I am like my mother in that regards. I like to make
things, and I’m good with my hands too. As long as you walk that positive part
and observe dad’s little rules, you are free to express yourself any which way
creatively. Knowing the battle dad fought for his independence, it would be
wrong for him to remote us into something else that does not agree with
our innate ability.
My dad
didn’t influence my choice of career, it is just what I’ve always loved and
desired to do. I have always had a love for fashion since I was in high school.
I could say a little bit of influence as to his nature but not like I was
pressured or told to do what I am doing now.
What is Charlyboy like as a
father?
Like any normal parent, always looking out for
their children and wanting the best for them. Most of the time, he is easy with
us, especially when we are good. However, sometimes he is a bit old fashioned
and can be very strict.
Growing up,
he was really strict but I actually understand now that I’m grown that he was
just looking out for me. People see him differently on the outside but to be
honest, he is really a cool guy. He really understands and I could tell him
anything. He is like an elder brother or a friend. Yes, I’m very close to my
dad.
We all know
there is no smoke without fire. How weird is your father, is he as weird as it
is made public…like sleeping in coffins, having pythons as pet and even that
his sexuality is questionable?
Hahaha…my
dad is an entertainer, that’s what he does for a living, and as an entertainer
you would attract all sorts, good, bad, ugly. It is their stock in trade. At
home, we don’t see any of this, it’s as normal as it could ever be, but I guess
people confuse his life as Charlyboy with his life as Mr Oputa, they are two
different entities. The man I know as my dad is Mr Charles Oputa.
Do you share
intimate stuff with your dad?
Yeah, I
share intimate stuff with him. Once, I had shared the story of the birds and
the bees with him and it wasn’t funny, maybe the timing was wrong. But we are
still very close and we talk pretty well. I don’t feel like I need to hide
anything from him, I just feel like I am an open book.
Are your
parents still together? What is their relationship like?
Yes, they
are still together. Every relationship is hard; there needs to be collective
efforts to make it work. I think they have had a cool relationship thus far,
though, they have their bitter moments sometimes, but what they share is worth
emulating, it’s kind of what I would like to have in future, with my husband
whenever I marry.
What about
your mum?
She is cool.
I love her; she has always been there for me. We have a very good relationship.
What about
all the funny stories about your dad, how does it affect you, how do you deal
with that?
Some
pictures came out some few months ago and I really didn’t know how to react to
it then. I know who my father is, but sometimes, people’s ignorance and bad
words can get to you. That is the price we all have to pay, for being
Charlyboys offspring; but on the whole, I am proud of where I am coming from.
I have a
thick skin now so nothing anybody writes gets to me again. I just tell myself,
I know who this person is and I am not going to get upset over words. It is
something I have gotten used to over the years, so it no longer bothers me when
he does some weird stuff.
Sometimes,
it gets so annoying being his daughter because I don’t like so much attention
focused on me, I hate crowd around me. I am glad he is my dad, but sometimes
it’s way too much.
How does
being Charlyboy’s daughter help you?
I’m proud of
my name, but I don’t go about telling people that I’am Charlyboys daughter. I
even hide that angle, because you want to know who your real friends are, not
based on something else. I don’t think anyone of us wears it as a badge.
I love to be seen as Dominique, not as Charlyboy’s daughter. Though, I am
independent, I still love my family’s name and no one can make me feel bad about
it.
What do you
feel about Nigeria’s economy right now?
Nigeria’s
economy is very bad. I feel like nothing is going to work anymore, like when
something is so damaged beyond repairs. Over there, they are so ignorant; they
still feel Africa is a jungle. I am also scared of the Boko Haram insurgence in
Nigeria, even though people die everywhere; Nigeria already has a bad name that
generates gossips in other countries after a small strike.
What’s that
one bad habit you picked up from your dad?
I easily get
angry, even though I am calm and easy going; the slightest things get me angry.
My dad is a little bit short fused, though age has mellowed him down some
little, I think we all took that from him.
What are the
positives you got from him?
We are very
focused in anything we want to do, and I am sure, all of us have that fighting
spirit, the never say die attitude. We are also people friendly.
Are you a
Christian?
I am pretty
much a Christian, but I am not a regular churchgoer. I don’t like being forced
to go to church. I don’t feel good about the fact that I don’t go to church
anyway. In our family, we are more spiritual than religious.
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